A Letter to My Sister

Yesterday, my sister told me that she failed 3 subjects and wouldn't be able to graduate this April. She, who is not really a crybaby, was crying and was so angry at herself. We tried to console her but to no avail. I've learned that it is sometimes more beneficial to leave someone alone. This morning, I was inspired to write her a letter and wrote one. Unfortunately, after when I went home, I find her in a much better situation. So I guess, she doesn't need this one? Haha. Maybe I will tell her later.

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9:58 am Mar-29-2012

To my Only "DALA" na Bunsisteree,

I may not fully know what or how you are feeling, but I know "THAT" feeling somehow because I've experienced it too in some way. No matter what you do or feel, you cannot change the fact that you can't turn back what has been already cast. I ask you to please try to widen your horizon more. Treat it as a learning experience, do not dwell on the past and live life more fully and richer by bouncing higher than ever. I've always believed that the most blessed ones are those given with the most hardships because these obstacles are not really problems but in actuality, opportunities for you to grow into someone of great value.

Have you heard of the Bulb story of Thomas Edison? I presumed you have either read or encountered that story. If my memory serves me right, Thomas Edison had failed 1000 times and even blew up his laboratory a couple of times before successfully developing the bulb. Do you remember that in his quotation, he perceived it not as a failure but as 1000 steps in developing the bulb?

I know I always annoy you when I say to always look on the brighter side. Let's face it. It is HARD to think positive when the world around you makes you feel otherwise. You know, *whisper mode* I felt that a bazillion times.

But my dear, maybe you're taking my advice superficially. I just couldn’t pinpoint how I came up to this. Maybe because I’m so much assuming? Hehe.. I may be wrong, I may be right but I think it’s because of your unconscious gestures. It is okay to rant and be angry for a while, but don’t linger on that feeling for too long. It is very unhealthy not only for the mind but also for the body.

Victory is sweet when you have achieved your goal. The sweetest is when you know the feeling of failing. Do you remember the joke that any kind of food tastes great when you’re absolutely hungry? You cannot define well courage without fear, good without bad and most probably success without failure. One failing doesn’t mean you’re a failure. Same goes for failing twice or thrice. It is through quitting which makes one a failure.

As I've said to you a couple of times, there's more to life than getting good grades and good credentials. Who knows, maybe in the future, you can be the next greatest person who can revolutionize the world? What is important now and for tomorrow is for you do your utmost best in any way you can without stepping on anybody, and enjoy what you are doing because you will experience this only once. It is the attitude that always counts and your plan for the future. Your plan should be yours, neither theirs nor someone’s. In this way, there’ll be no regrets. Do not forget to breathe deeply, relax and smell the flowers. Life has many works of art even words can’t describe.

It really makes me uncomfortable to say this but I will be always here for you. I, myself was even surprised when I had made this 500+ words letter just for you. Maybe because you are one S-P-E-C-I-A-L child. Just try to decipher what special means.. hahaha..

Remember that we love you and will always be proud of you!

Lots of Love, Hugs and Kisses (<--Yuck. Totally not me. -_-)

Ate Farrah